Have you ever made a Bucket List? If so, what was on it? Did you stick to it or was it just something fun to think about once upon a dream?
Here's what I didn't see coming 15 years into my first Bucket List:
When I was in my 20’s I was eager to craft the perfect Bucket List-full of random benchmarks that made my mouth water. These Bucket List Worthy items were ideas like Work for The American Cancer Society, which was fueled by a lump in my throat each time I said it out loud. Own A Bar, Become a Body Piercer or Learn to Drive a Motorcycle-these were a reflection of my wild-can’t be tamed soul. Backpack Europe and Road trip the United States fed into my curious and ambitious side….and then there was the Get a ROTH IRA when I was 18, for the single reason that some upperclassmen in college said it was “the cool thing to do”. These ideas were quickly jotted down with little thought, and created a checklist that kept me moving forward.
Make It Happen
Now, in my 30’s, I am so grateful for that forward movement and carefree attitude that was applied to My Bucket List, but what shocks me isn’t what was on the list, but the process and outcome. You see, when I had an idea to add something to the list, if it sounded interesting and sparked my curiosity, I added it. I never considered not being able to achieve every last checklist. I didn’t think about how much it would cost, if I’d have enough vacation time to get away, if it “made sense” or the big one…what if I fail. I just accepted that I’d find a way to make each item happen. This attitude has stuck with me: If you want to do it, find a way. A Bucket List is affectionately named to represent all the things to accomplish before you die….and Life my friend, IS SHORT!
What I Learned From My Ambitious 20’s-Something Bucket List
The life long lessons that have come from that Wide-Eyed Bucket List are endless. I learned there was a tree on the west coast I could drive my car through; that your parents will consider disowning you when you practice for your piercing license on your younger siblings; that having a Roth IRA is fantastic (and if I would have put as much into my IRA as I spent on drinking in my early 20’s, I’d probably be retired by now). I learned that you probably shouldn’t run out and buy a motorcycle the same day you pass your test and get your license (because you just might panic at your first 3-way intersection and dump your bike during rush hour). But most importantly, going through this process has shown me we have a choice. A choice on how to live our life. We can set our intentions, regardless of how extreme they may be and work toward them OR we can look back on our life and wonder why we never took the chance to follow that spark of curiosity.
The beauty of it is it’s our choice.
What I Didn’t See Coming…
Here’s the kicker…
Checking out The Grand Canyon, Roaming the streets of Dublin, Planning events for ACS, basking on a beach in the Greek Isles, listening to far too much AC/DC in a sterile touristy tattoo parlor,
people watching a day away with the Eiffel Tower as the backdrop, and being the face of a local watering hole
didn’t impressive me.?!
When I reflect on the List, it’s not the doing that impressed me. Sure it makes for great stories when it comes up in conversation, but when I sit back and look, it’s the relationships that outshine the entire experience. The people I was with for each of those goals checked off. The friend I convinced to fly to London who sobbed on the train reading the Notebook, the Friend who geeked out when we had car trouble somewhere in Kansas (or was it Oklahoma?), the Friend who let me tattoo their foot (because it seemed like a good idea), the Friend who never missed one of my random events and danced on the bar pouring shots just because I asked them, my Dad, who went out and bought all the gear the night before class and hasn’t been on a motorcycle since, Oh and did I mention, the Dreamy man I met that’s now my husband? (yup, met him while I was pursuing one of those Bucket Lists)
Whether it was a relationship strengthened or a new one formed, I’ve found the Shared Experiences are what I hold close to my heart. With each goal checked off, I walked away armed with memories, stories and friendships that are still with me today. Those shared experiences bonded us!
So enough about me…What are YOU going to place on your Bucket List? How are you going to achieve it? And What added benefits might enhance your life just by following your dream?
Dream Big Dear Friends.
Is a self-proclaimed Mini-Entrepreneur. When not dreaming up the next big project, she basks in the sounds of life running through her halls in the form of little feet (and 4-legged friends)! Navigating her role as a mom, and trying desperately to slow down time, she strives to inspire others to take control of their lives and see what amazing things they can achieve when they “Dream Big. Make a Plan. Kick Ass and Thrive”. Her creative juices flow best when she’s surrounded by those who inspire her, enjoying music, a good yoga session, running and exploring the world of farming as The Curious Farmer.