by Abby Lemke
My love affair with to-do lists started young. My mom saved some of my weekend to-do lists from when I was in fourth grade. These lists included making my lunches for the week, doing homework assignments and practicing gymnastics. While this type of focus was laudable, it also resulted in me missing out on a lot of fun.
Fast forward to my freshman year in college when my best friend Lindsay would hunt me down in the library on Friday nights and drag me away from my homework insisting that I have fun. I was always listening to the perfectionist voice in my head that told me that I had to get every item on my to-do list crossed off before I could have fun. However, I found that I often had to forgo fun all together because my to-do list was never ending.
As soon as one thing was crossed off, another task popped up.
Fortunately for me my college experience was a gradual reckoning with the fact that I needed fun and relaxation in my life as much as I needed to do the other things on my to-do list. Like a true to-do list addict I couldn't get rid of my list cold turkey, instead I learned to add to it. I added fun things like going to brunch with my friends or to a football game and I eventually added relaxing things like taking a nap or reading a book (for fun) to my list. These items weren't last on my to-do list- they were a part of my to-do list- just as important as the other items. This forced me to prioritize because fun was non-negotiable, just like the other pressing tasks on my to-do list such as studying for a test or paying my bills.
I again find myself struggling with the never-ending to-do list as a mother of two young children.
Only this time the stakes are higher.
Now I need to prioritize having fun with my kids so that I don't lose out on these precious years because I'm too focused on the infinite tasks of running a household, working and parenting. I'm going to start right now by taking my kids to the park, because I can cross writing this blog post off of my to-do list.
About the Author
Is a self-proclaimed Mini-Entrepreneur. When not dreaming up the next big project, she basks in the sounds of life running through her halls in the form of little feet (and 4-legged friends)! Navigating her role as a mom, and trying desperately to slow down time, she strives to inspire others to take control of their lives and see what amazing things they can achieve when they “Dream Big. Make a Plan. Kick Ass and Thrive”. Her creative juices flow best when she’s surrounded by those who inspire her, enjoying music, a good yoga session, running and exploring the world of farming as The Curious Farmer.